Living life peacefully is a goal for literally everyone. But wait until life throws another stone at you just to teach either how to dodge it or handle the pain. I don’t understand why life seems so difficult. I get it, it IS difficult but don’t you think we somehow see it ten times harder than it actually is? I mean look back at your past experiences and you will realize how little the situation was and how terrified you were because of it.
Anyways, there are a few lessons that I have learnt in these past years and these lessons now help me in keeping myself calm and not engage with situations or pain that can affect the quality of my life even if it is for a short period of time.
You Should Be Your First Priority
If you intend to make your life better, making yourself your first priority should be a no-brainer. Have as many priorities as you want, be available for literally as many people as you like but no one should be more important to you than your own self. Dare you let someone take the top position of your priority list.
No one deserves your love, care, affection, and respect more than you yourself. When you make yourself your first priority, you step into an energy that tells your inner self that it is appreciated and there is someone who will be there for them no matter what happens. And this is important. Your inner self needs to know that it is protected. You need to protect your energy at all costs so that you stay away from negativity, pain, and BS.
People Can Choose to Leave You
They are allowed to, they can and they will at some point or another. Stop counting on them and let them go. Does not mean you can’t have friends. You should always make friends, socialize if you like but don’t expect they are going to stay forever. There’s nothing like “forever”. Accept that as soon as you can. This will save you from expecting and the pain it brings along with it.
More importantly, if someone chooses to leave you, knowing that they can leave will allow you to stay in your energy and not step down just to have them. Never step down or beg someone to stay.
You deserve people who can appreciate you for what you are and are willing to match your level instead of pulling you down.
Don’t Expect an Explanation From Someone Who Hurt You
Explanations are overrated. We expect people to explain themselves so that they would understand they did something wrong and you are hurt. But someone who is doing something already knows what they are doing is going to hurt you and they still choose to do that. They still choose to hurt you. Do you really want someone to tell you that they chose to hurt you because they don’t care how you feel? They hurt you, they don’t deserve a chance to explain themselves unless of course you were in your head and they didn’t do anything intentionally. But most of the time, people don’t have to explain anything and you should not expect anything, especially an explanation, from them.
Overthinking Is Only Going to Hurt You
We all are guilty of this. In fact, most of us know overthinking is not going to get us anywhere and we still indulge in it. A lot of us even believe that they don’t have control over it, well I have been there as well. But no, I have my control over overthinking now and I can confirm you all can avoid it as well.
It is okay to overthink occasionally, write your thoughts down, introspect, and let your emotions out but it should not become a routine. Overthinking unnecessarily can affect you and your relationships a lot and it can be really concerning. Not just that, after some time you will realize how often you indulge into overthinking and stressing over something that may not be true. And this can trigger a lot of emotions in you. It is better if you realize there is a problem and try to work on it as soon as possible rather than facing the repercussions and then considering changing.
It Is Okay to Quit
It is perfectly fine to quit. No matter what people tell you, quitting is not for losers and honestly, there is literally no need to put labels on people just because they choose to let something go or shift their focus.
Also, you don’t need solid reasons to quit. You can quit if you feel like and that is normal as well. Going with your intuition and making a decision only because you “wish to” is a good enough explanation. Moreover, you don’t have to explain your decision to anyone. It is your life, your decision, your choice.
However, don’t quit because of external circumstances or pressure. That is something you will be doing for or because of other people and not yourself.
Live your life with a free and clear mind. Enjoy your time. Procrastinate if you will, follow your dreams, do something that will give you a sense of happiness.
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